5/4/2024
Ben reminded me of something I said
not drinking is simple but it's not easy
It's easier not to drink than it is to moderate.
https://www.granitewellness.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/101-things-to-do-instead-of-drugs.pdf
4/27/2024
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
4/24/24
What's the worst thing I've been able to stay sober through?
4/12/2024
It's easier to stay sober than to get sober
4/11/2024
Bruce: Anxiety is nothing but repeatedly re-experiencing failure in advance.
4/5/2024
The only person who doesn't like you, is you. Rob in the Grab the Ring meeting convened by Sue
4/1/2024
Hosted for Mark who had to leave unexpectedly
🥕Anna H 7:18 PM
You are a wonderful convener. I can't wait until you have your own meeting. You are truly an asset to Lifering🩷
You (direct message) 7:19 PM
Oh thank you so much!!
3/30/2024
Dr Peter Levine waking the tiger
3/27/2024
I am grateful for this new day.
I embrace impermanence.
I cultivate compassion for myself and others.
I walk the path of wisdom.
I am at peace with myself.
I am capable of letting go of attachments, cravings, and negative thoughts.
3/15/2024
z- James D. Thorpe 11:04 PM
Sobriety doesn't have to be all that defines us
Nicole 11:04 PM
I like to think of it as a refining rather than a defining factor myself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ezQnhP2FZ6w
Nicole 11:57 PM
Anjelah Johnson-Reyes
3/14/2024
The ripples in the pond have stopped and now I can see the bottom.
3/8/2024
I don't want to relive those moments or those losses - Thayne, Brandon, Oracle.
3/3/2024
"I don't care that you drink, I care how you treat me" - brilliant way to put it @Nicole
"First, you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you." - F. Scott Fitzgerald
2/16/2024
I'm afraid of drinking again in a different way. To fear losing what I have now
"wouldn't it be nice..." Oh, you're back again. Permissive voice, let me introduce you to sober voice and the look on Thayne's face when he's not thinking of me drinking and loving our time together.
Ask myself - what do I want more? A drink or a sober life? What will make me feel better?
Write down the addict brain talk and write the sober brain responses.
Being honest with other people is practice for being honest with yourself.
2/15/2024
DENIAL - Don't even notice I am lying
2/11/2024
Say no to the first one. It doesn't get easier than that as an LR convenor says. :)
Also, using was fun until it wasn't. Recovery sucked until it didn't.
Things I've learned along the way...
Addiction is the only jail cell that the door opens from within.
He never woke up wishing he'd drank the night before.
1/26/2024
Reintegrating into society - not feeling like I belong
Audio hallucinations
How do "help" calls go?
Nature preserve for nerds job
1/12/2024
Prepare for a particular trigger in the morning
Set expectations for the day - I'll feel good today and won't feel drunk
1/11/2024
Act your way into a feeling vs feel your way into acting
Here is a website where you can enter your medication to see if they hinder Acetacholine in the brain: https://www.acbcalc.com/ They are classified Anti-Colergenic medications: Tricyclic Anti-depressants, Paxil (really bad), hydroxyzine, Benadryl, Dramamine, Benzos, Detrol, Ditropan, Claritin. All these meds cause "Cholergenic burden." Allot of doctors are unaware of this, so don't be surprised if they are unaware of their negative effect. They especially have a negative impact on aging brain, and terrible for dementia patients.
1/10/2024
Quitting drinking doesn't make you a better person. It allows the real person to emerge.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satchel_Paige
1/8/2024
Belief is a thought you keep on thinking
Don't "should" on yourself
1/5/2024
Book: I'm reading the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene...its 's pretty insightful.
You would do well not to dwell
1/4/2024
Triggers are my teachers, not my tormentors
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-i-get-through-hard-times-using-curiosity-compassion-and-challenge/
Ariana Joy 12:35 PM
JQ-I got a notification for this video from Emma Mcadams/ Therapy In a Nutshell via YouTube pop up after the 9am meeting and thought of you....I haven't finished the video yet. It is in line with cognitive distortions...…....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBzvkgARehg&t=411s
Live in "the suck" and embrace and process it and don't use it as a way to punish myself
1/3/2024
I found for sleep Seamus Byrne The Healer sounds and Tripura Mandela, a guy also on utube. Tripura s intention is to teach meditation but his lovely voice pace etc put me asleep.
Wisdom is the progressive discovery of our own ignorance
Movie: The Bridge of Sighs
Intention is the currency of alcohol abstinence
There's a nationwide campaign to motivate people to drink.
Atomic Habits (book) interview: https://youtu.be/8gSdd-hLnW8?feature=shared
Holly got a big hug from her college kid, who didn't even want to be with her 2 years ago because of her drinking.
When is it ever a safe time to do something that I know will damage me?
1/2/2024
Comedians:
Jim Brewer
Patrice O'Neal
Ron White
Bill Burr
Steve-O
Craig Ferguson
Zach Galifianakis
Rob Delaney
Theo Vonz
Jim brewer
Roman 8:39 PM
Patrice Oneal never drank
ron white stopped drinking
bill burr actually is a great one. he's always struggling with drinking while at clubs working, and takes long breaks from it. long ones. hes not a fan of being drunk.
Steve-O isnt so much a comic, but his recovery story is powerful. No one does any drugs around him at all during interviews.
Ron white is a suprise, i remember his comedy, him always having a short glass of something😉
Craig Ferguson, Zach Galifianakis, Rob Delaney is hilarious. very sober.
Theo Von is probably my favorite sober comedian.
Movie: 28 Days. Pleasure Unwoven (Youtube).
12/20/2023
Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.
1. Admit I'm fucked.
2. Realize there's a way to stop fucking myself.
3. Make a decision to get the fuck out of this mess.
4. Write all about how fucked up I really am.
5. Tell someone else about all this fucked up shit I just wrote about.
6. Become totally ready to stop being such a fuck up.
7. Try to do less fucked up shit all the time.
8. Make a list of people I fucked over.
9. Find those people and tell them "I fucked up", unless telling them will fuck them worse.
10. Continue to be aware of when I fuck up, and set that shit straight pronto.
11. Chill the fuck out sometimes and realize that shit's better now.
12. Find other people that are as fucked up as I used to be, and help them.
Remember when you wanted to feel as good as you feel now?
"Life's a lot easier when you're not trying to choke yourself out" Greg R
Acceptance Commitment Therapy
RE therapy Albert Ellis
Dec 24 2024
Lifering
Never take a sober day for granted - go to a meeting, continue vigilance
Choice in Recovery
Because choice is so important in recovery, consider exploring these other non-12-step recovery options:
**Smart Recovery: a science-based, self-empowered addiction recovery program.- https://www.smartrecovery.org/
**Recovery Dharma: a Buddhist-based recovery program.- https://recoverydharma.org/
For women only
**Women for Sobriety: a recovery program for women.- https://womenforsobriety.org/
**SheRecovers.org: a program to inspire hope, reduce stigma and empower women.- https://sherecovers.org/
From Shane: Taresa you may have these links:Washington State Peer Support Specialist
https://www.hca.wa.gov/billers-providers-partners/program-information-providers/peer-support
** https://www.hca.wa.gov/billers-providers-partners/program-information-providers/peer-counselors
Apply and be accepted as a possible training applicant. Successfully complete an Health Care Authority (HCA)-approved in-person training. Pass the written and oral state exam. HCA-approved Certified Peer Counselor trainings, standard behavioral health and youth and family are 5 days long (36-40 hours).
Verification form:
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Click on the form link, fill out the fields, and submit it. You will get an email that verifies that you attended the meeting in question. Please allow 24 - 36 business hours for the meeting verification email to be sent to your inbox.
Make sure to get your email address correct for follow up, and the convenor for this meeting is: ‘Sepehr’
Please donate today! —
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Click on the form link, fill out the fields, and submit it. You will get an email that verifies that you attended the meeting in question. Please allow 24 - 36 business hours for the meeting verification email to be sent to your inbox.
Make sure to get your email address correct for follow up, and the convenor for this meeting is: ‘Shane’
Please donate today! —
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CALGROW2023 - Care giving training: Futuro Health <info@futurohealth.org>
Choice in Recovery
Because choice is so important in recovery, consider exploring these other non-12-step recovery options:
Smart Recovery: a science-based, self-empowered addiction recovery program.- https://www.smartrecovery.org/
Recovery Dharma: a Buddhist-based recovery program. https://recoverydharma.org/
For women only
Women for Sobriety: a recovery program for women.- https://womenforsobriety.org/
SheRecovers.org: a program to inspire hope, reduce stigma, and empower women.- https://sherecovers.org/
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1AuWy7FKCG-R_pyRZzEjFXkH-Rw_0VEzi/edit?pli=1#gid=656871302
Various Online secular meeting & 12-steps programs 24/7 schedule: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1AuWy7FKCG-R_pyRZzEjFXkH-Rw_0VEzi/edit?pli=1#gid=656871302
Online Meeting Verification Form Link: https://forms.gle/eh8nqxjsWEiWc3dE6
Please note:
We encourage you to attend as many meetings as work for you. However, only three (3) meeting attendance verification requests submitted for meetings within 24 hours will be eligible for review.
We cannot send verification for two meetings that overlap (e.g., 6:15 pm Pacific & 7:00 pm Pacific)
Verification requests must be submitted within a week of the meeting attended.
For additional help, see: https://lifering.org/online-meetings/online-attendance-verification-two/
12/20/2023
You promote what you permit. As a leader.
I honor what you're doing
Sarah, convenor:
Proximity is not a reflection of love. Sometimes we aren't the right people for each other right now.
It's understandable people will react to us changing as people.
Sometimes our behavior isn't who we are, it's childhood stuff.
I'm so with you on that. Thank you for sharing. What a gift.
I love that you're owning that whole story.
You were skeptic when you started and so was I. It's not unsurmountable and I thought it was.
Thank you for sharing your story and your journey with us.
Shares:
Book recommendation: The Pivot Year. How to grapple with the things in your life you're not necessarily grateful for but appreciate the experience.
Being in a position to trust yourself is such a gift of sobriety. I thought my world would get more narrow but being sober gives me a lot of options.
12/19/2023
Fred: helpful to have a "compass" or some THING that I can attach my health and forward instincts to. Was a rock. painted a compass on it.
12/17/2023
Lifering:
JQ: Changing physical state: hold an ice cube in both hands till they melt, do anything physical, play with pets, take a walk, cold plunge in bath, shower, box breathing, tapping outside of both knees, clean house, starting with a single dish, usually results in more cleaning.
Nate: Compassion isn't conditional. If I want to show up as a compassionate person, that is extended to everyone.
Josh: No matter how far we drive we're always the same distance from the ditch
Mario: "It's easier to stay Sober than to become Sober" I would hear people in the Program say this.
12/15/2023
Hail me!
Shane: Some of the most important words you hear are the ones you speak yourself.
Dreams aren't what I'm doing now. They're my brain rewiring to make the changes I want to and to leave behind alcohol. It's a gift not to have to rewire myself in waking hours.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7toucYjIgxIePLEVE9oDhO?si=bfd740f8a6a04d4a
James Clear - Atomic Habits book
https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits-summary
“Drastic change never sticks”
Book - A Happier Hour
Bird by bird
Sarah as convenor
I love that for you
Question what's serving you
What you're sharing is important
I will cherish myself. What does that look like?
It's helpful to hear the things that work for us because they're a little different for everyone.
2024 Energy
Deeply connected and nourishing relationships
Firm nos
Clear expectations
Value-based decision making
Gentleness with myself
Rest as essential
Spend more time with people who energize me
Implement recovery strategies for people who deplete me
Less, busy work, more intentional practices
(via @nedratawwab on IG)
Reflection: What energy do you want to bring into the holidays and the new year? - Journaling topic
12/12/2023
Anonymous Tool Time Survey:
Join the Tool Time Chat Group using the Telegram messaging app:
Tool Time Meeting tools document:
Kemper's List for Sobriety:
"How Come I Do Not Drink Anymore" document:
"Note To Self" document:
